The Danger of Gaslighting
I think we can all agree that gaslighting is the wooooorst. When you share a vulnerable or tough experience with someone and they respond in a way that makes you feel like you’re being dramatic and overreacting it really hurts.
In this episode I cover the many ways that people gaslight one another, where the term comes from, why people engage in gaslighting, how to respond when someone is gaslighting you, and of course what to do if you realize that you’ve gaslighted someone else. I also share a few examples of times that I have been racially gaslighted, oof. If you need a little validation you’ll find it here. Don’t worry you’re not losing your mind, you’re being gaslighted.
Ally Elementary
Ally Elementary and Ally Elementary Jr give parents and teachers a practical, interactive way to implement the anti-racist strategies that we discuss on the First Name Basis Podcast.
These programs allow parents and teachers to work together with their children to create a culture of anti-racism in their home or classroom. We use hands-on activities to teach our children about everything from the untold story of how race was created to how they can disrupt racism in their everyday lives. I am so excited to join you as you make a meaningful transformation and improve your communities through anti-racist action.
Articles, Studies & Podcasts Referenced in the Episode
The Hidden Victims of Gaslighting (BBC Article)
This Book is Anti-racist by Tiffany Jewell
So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
Racial Gaslighting with Dr. Rose Ernst and Angelique M. Davis
First Name Basis Podcast, Season 2, Episode 22: “Cancel Culture Pt. 1: Calling In, Calling Out, & Tone Policing”
First Name Basis Podcast, Season 2, Episode 19: “The Danger of Spiritual Bypassing”
Song credit: “Sleeper” by Steve Adams” and “Dive Down” by VYEN
